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My Dad lives in Australia (Perth). He moved there when I was 10.
My Dad is on some heavy medication. They say he wouldn't remember our conversation if we had one.
I will send him a note (and picture of the twins) instead.
My Aunt (his wife and my mother's sister) has Lupus. She weighs 98 pounds and is in worse condition than my Dad.
They are both alcoholics and have smoked their entire lives.
They care very little about their own physical health.
Neither will live to see 2012, which is very sad.
I hope I (and the experts) are wrong.
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4 comments:

Josie said...

Wait a minute....Dear old Dad did your mom and then went off WITH HER SISTER? Am I reading that right?

Closure is more for you than him. Send the letter and follow up with a call before it's too late. so fucking what if he doesn't remember...you will and you're the most important person in this equation fo sho. Mebbe you give him the opportunity to apologize...

7:56 PM
The Neophyte said...

After losing both parents before I was married, not to mention having kids, I'm sure I have a slanted perspective here. But not a day goes by where I don't wish I could talk to one or the other of my parents. Different situation for you as you have no real relationship with your father. Is it possible he never contacted you because of his own feelings of guilt? In your position I might feel exactly like you do - my wife calls me the king of grudge holding - but believe me, when that door closes, it's closed for good. Extending an olive branch now may save you a lot of regret later.

2:36 AM
Gary said...

Brother Schaubs, your only imperative is to pay it forward, and be the father to your twins that he was not. It sounds like this is already irrevocably hard-wired into you.

But if I could offer you some friendly advice? Send the note. Wish him well. At death all is forgiven. Besides, inaction at times like this has a tendency to kind of gnaw at you when it's dark and quiet.

I wish you well, I really do.

2:58 AM
PokahDave said...

It sounds like someone is still making excuses for him for some reason. That being said do what Gary said and see what happens...it will probably give you some closure....

3:54 PM

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